Monday, June 6, 2016

EP. 5 | Sushi & Sims, and EP. 6 | Welcome to Devonport Vlogs (New Zealand Trip Recap pt. 2)

Oh, boy...

This recap is LONG overdue! I've been meaning to get through the rest of my NZ trip but life caught up with me. Anyways, enjoy this week's recap! :D

When we found our mutual love over sushi and the Sims, we both agreed that one day, we will just have sushi and play the Sims... well, Kendel and I can officially cross that off our friendship bucket list!

Massey University looks like it's something out of California!

The beautiful Massey library.

... and their odd golden statue of a chicken wing.

The next day we went to explore Devonport. For those who are wondering, Devonport reminds me of Stevenson, BC. Anyways, it's sooooooo beautiful. I absolutely love Devonport and if I had to pick a place to live in Auckland, it's most likely be Devonport.

Wow, can we just talk about the beauty of New Zealand's landscape? It's a mixture of hills, flatness, greens and blues. I'm so used to seeing the beautiful mountains back at home, it's refreshing to see a different landscape!

Monday, May 30, 2016

Everybody Needs a Pair of Black Glasses!

Confession: I own about... 5 pair of glasses. Yes, you read that right: 5 pairs. 

I'm a huge believer that glasses can dress up an outfit, and it doesn't hurt to have a few extra pairs laying around as a back up pair. As someone that tends to get bored easily, I love having different coloured glasses to swap around when I feel the need to change things up.

I also believe that as fun as it is to own multiple pairs of glasses in different colours, one cannot skip out on a basic pair of black glasses. They're fun, formal, casual, sexy, everything.

So... how does one own 5 pairs of glasses without breaking the bank?

I shop online and look for glasses frames that are affordable and cheap. When I mean affordable, I definitely mean affordable - I haven't paid more than $100 for a pair of glasses since I lost my first pair!

So, I snagged a pair of casual black frames from GlassesShop. They offer cheap glasses with a wide range of selections available.

Upon receiving the package, I was welcome with one of the cutest glasses case. It's so slim, I wish every case was made like this!

When I first tried it on, I felt the sunglasses almost crooked but I think it was just me because eventually the glasses felt comfortable on my face. It's very light weight!

I wear prescription glasses so it's important that the lenses I have on my glasses are correct and nice. GlasseShop got my prescription correct and basic lens for me. As you can see, the lens reflect off surfaces very easily which is something I'm not entirely a fan of but for the price what can you do? These lens are already anti-reflective but the notable reflections are still there.

One thing that took me by surprise was how flexible the hinges were! The arms swung open with a flick.

I'm not really a materialistic person and care for name brands but I wish GlassesShop would have printed the frame model's name rather than gibberish that don't make sense to consumers. I mean, it's not the greatest fault, but compared to other glasses shop, it's pleasant on the eyes to see a model rather than numbers.

Overall, my experience with GlassesShop was very pleasant. I got a nice black frame without breaking the bank! If you're in town for a new pair, give GlassesShop a try! GlassesShop also offers prescription sunglasses for those upcoming sunny months.

GlassesShop is offering all readers a 50% off on eyeglasses and sunglasses with free lens (excluding sale frames)! Enter GSHOT50 upon checking out.

*Disclaimer: This post was sponsored by GlassesShop, however, all opinions are 100% mine.

Saturday, May 28, 2016

If We Were on a Coffee Date | Vol. 3

If we were on a coffee date, I couldn't even tell you how I unexpectedly went on a three months blogging hiatus... it just happened.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd tell you how I'm slowly coming back into blogging with a bunch of long overdue posts.

If we were on a coffee date, I have four months left of school... aka, one last final semester!

If we were on a coffee date, I'm currently looking for entry-level HR/recruiting jobs to launch my career.

If we were on a coffee date, I didn't get a call back from the last two interviews I went to but I have one lined up for Monday noon and you know what they say, third time's a charm! (hopefully.)

If we were on a coffee date, I started casually seeing this Irish lad two months ago buuuut I think we're off now... slightly bummed out and hurts more than it should.

If we were on a coffee date, I'd tell you all about the different cities I'm hoping to explore in hopes of moving there after graduation.

Sunday, March 27, 2016

This is the part where you begin to drift from your friends

I was hanging out with my cousin the other day to catch the Canada vs. Mexico soccer game which Canada lost drastically buuuut oddly enough, I'm not too bummed out because I don't consider summer sports to be Canada's forte. I mean... who seriously tunes in to watch the summer Olympic games in Canada? Haha.

Post game. 0-3 Canada vs. Mexico
My cousin and I were walking towards a late night sushi restaurant to grab something to eat. I was complaining about my Saturday plans because at the time I agreed to it, I was down but as the days crept closer, I wasn't in the mood.

I told my cousin I felt that my lifestyle no longer revolves around clubbing and spending a fortune drinking with a bunch of strangers. I told my cousin that clubbing is no longer my scene because it's not a place to catch up with my friends or meet new people. I'm no longer phased by having half my boobs pop out in order for guys to pay attention.

I mean, is it even genuine interest if you're half naked? I'd rather appreciate a compliment when I'm fully clothed than wearing a short mini-skirt and low cut shirts.

My cousin told me I'm at the stage in life where I'd start to stray away from friends that I no longer share the same lifestyle with and associate myself with those more similar to me.

I'm not a prune. I still have fun but I'd rather do it elsewhere and not at a club. I don't know when society deemed that the best thing you can do is go clubbing.

I noticed I hang out with my co workers more than my girlfriends because I see them much more than I do my actual friends but it's also the fact that they're similar in age but seek fun elsewhere than a club. And that not all outings requires us to drink. They have similar goals in trying to reach their careers or finish school.

I think everyone knows friends stray after high school or during your mid 20s but I think it's interesting to experience it for yourself rather than read about it.

I no longer share the same lifestyle as some of my best friends and that's okay. We may drift but that's okay because I still trust and rely on them. I just hope that they're understanding of my lifestyle differences and respect that as well.

I still keep in touch with my girlfriends via messages and occasionally meet up for dinners and movies but I honestly don't think I can continue hanging out with those who revolve themselves around nightclubs and drinks. There are so many other ways to have fun without getting drunk, half naked, and struggling to find out how you've been for the past few weeks over loud blaring music and strangers.

And right now, I'm so close to graduating and starting my career. Maybe in the past few years when I was nowhere near finishing my school, I'd join them in nights out but now, I'm more focused on my career than anything else and I'm alright with that :)

Monday, March 21, 2016

Let It Go

It's a windy day - then again, Wellington is known for its winds, just like Vancouver is known for its rain. I came to Wellington in hopes of finding a new home, a place to essentially run away. It's my last day and I decided to spend it around Oriental Bay.

I'm watching the vast ocean fiercely hug the shore. The powerful winds made the waves and ocean look so much better. I'm sitting down, absorbing my surroundings. There are joggers behind me. There's a beautiful dog coming just around the bend. Across the beach is a team preparing for their morning jog.

This morning, I forgo my headphones. I wanted to listen to Wellington rather than the songs I've heard over a billion times.

I still couldn't believe I made it over to New Zealand. Sure, it's not a move, it was more of a vacation but I followed one of my dreams. I chose to run to New Zealand to get away from Vancouver, and some of its bitter memories that are tied to several landmarks of the city. Ultimately, I wanted to run away from the city because it's where I had my first heartbreak. It's where I feel I can never get rid of my ex because he's everywhere. It's where I feel trapped sometimes. It's where I feel I can't fully move on if I'm in the same city as my ex.

I'm now deep into my thoughts and still watched the currents with content. I've been analyzing my "relationship" with my ex. We've been "on and off" is what society would describe as.

Before I left for my two weeks New Zealand trip, I met another boy at work. I always noticed he would say hi and bye (to me) whenever he came to the gym. Eventually, I stopped him and asked how his weekend was. From there, we bonded over sushi, chicken wings, school, and whatever else. I left for my trip shortly after introducing ourselves but he left a lasting impression.

During my days in Wellington, I've noticed a lot of couples traveling together. I've never been the envious type, or the one what craves a companion.

But the more I see it around me, and the more I analyze my "relationship", I realized I want something more serious. I want to be able to see myself on future trips with the guy I'm sleeping with, but I can't with my ex. I began thinking about my future and oddly enough, my ex isn't the guy I want to have kids with. He isn't the guy that I want to move in with.

I still love him, and I think a part of me will always love him, but not as much as I did before we broke up the first time. But whatever I have with him isn't serious. He's not giving me what I want and I don't know why I'm staying. I'm starting to see the lies I've told myself whenever I'm with my ex.

I would make excuses up. Excuses like, my ex still keeps all my gifts I've returned to him, that means something right? He sleeps with the Hello Kitty pillow I returned to him, that's a sign right? He never picks up a new girl on his nights out. He always calls me whenever he's drunk because that's a sign of something, right? It's a saying that you mean something when you're the person they think of when they're pissed drunk. He kept my number after switching phones. He called me after six months of no contact.

All of those were lies I told myself to justified why I kept sleeping over at his place. Lies I told myself in hopes that he would want to restart a serious relationship again. Lies to comfort me thinking he has legitimate feelings for me.

I made the decision before returning back to Vancouver. I want something more serious and he wasn't going to give it to me. I just met someone I potentially may like in the near future and I'm not going to let that moment pass because of all the lies I told me.

I told my ex I wanted something more serious and he said okay. A part of me feels a bit disappointed and upset because I'm saying goodbye to an important chapter of my life. But at the same time, I feel very hopeful and free.

I'm free from the lies I've been telling myself. I'm free from the habit of checking up on my ex's previous girlfriends or "best female friends". I'm free from that horrible feeling of wanting more when I'm with him.

On and off relationships are always hard, but I'm confident that I've fully let go of this chapter. I have a future to focus and look forward to. I have so many close friends to rely on and support me. I always knew this day will come because of the lingering doubts I've had about my ex.

I want something more serious. I don't feel lonely or old. I just want something with someone I can see a future with. I don't want to continue lying to myself and giving myself false hope. I don't want to be tied to social media stalking - how pathetic is it that we officially ended a few years ago but I still search all his female friends on Instagram and Facebook?

I'm free.

I let go and I'm free.