Friday, August 12, 2016

I Guess I Don't Know How to Tinder...

Following my big announcement last week about Tinder, I realized I may not know how to Tinder.

It always has and always will be a hook up app. Plain and simple. Previously, I told you about Justin. It went off the rails a few days after our meet up and stupidly, last Saturday he decides to text me to meet up with him at a bar - sorry, you haven't spoken to me in a week and you want me to come visit you at a bar? No thanks.

During this time, M. and I resumed texting. We texted briefly and then he disappeared and reappeared again. We went out just last Saturday and honestly, it was definitely one of the best dates I've had in a looooong time. And we agreed to meet up with each other again a few days later.

Now, the story goes about Tinder is the fact that it's a hook up app. You find people to hook up with. I believe that but my previous co-workers told me a lot of people use it to find decent relationships.

I thought it was smooth sailing with M. and decided to have a talk before it progressed faster. I legitimately thought he was on the same boat as me and wanted to pursue a relationship... and lo and behold, he's just another guy who wanted a friends with benefits sort of thing.

I mean, we talked it out. He has too much on his plate right now (school, work, volunteer) but he still wants to keep in touch. He's a great guy, I'd love to have him as a friend as well.

And I find myself bummed out but I also found myself thinking... I'm right. I'm using Tinder wrong again.

And the funny thing is that, sure I'm a bit bummed out (because let's be honest, after having talks like that... most people don't end up keeping in touch) but I also realized, I still don't know what I want.

I'm stuck between wanting something casual and and wanting something that's a bit more serious. And it's honestly been this way since The Boy and The Irish Lad. I can't see myself committing to anyone but yet, I still seek it.

I told M. that I want a relationship and if it's not what you want, it's best to go our separate ways and I legit just want to shoot myself in the foot because no, that's not what I want. In reality, I just want something more than friends with benefits/hook ups but not a super serious relationship.

I think it's funny because a few days before M. and I started talking again, I ran into Samir in the gym again. He was a gym member that I found insanely cute, really hit it off easily, and a lot of co workers were rooting for him. And I passed it up because I knew he wanted a relationship and I don't (yet).

On my Tinder profile it says I love sushi and photography. I also linked my Instagram onto my file and I guess I either swiped left on this guy or haven't came across his profile yet but he actively seek me out on Instagram, haha. #desperate.
I'm not going to bore you with my repeated feelings and thoughts again. I think the entire world knows I'm caught between wanting one thing and wanting another. But for now, I lost interest in Tinder and can't decide if I want to use it or not again. Tinder is just... Tinder.

Haha. I've had my fun but it's definitely dragging and the candidate pool is getting shittier and shittier.

So, what else is new in my so called dating life? Boy, I can't believe some of you guys still follow my dating life. I'm pretty sure I'd be 40 and with 6 dogs or something.

Thursday, August 4, 2016

Guys, I'm on Tinder

Long ago, I was on Tinder and had my first Tinder meet up which needless to say, it was the sole reason I ended up deleting the app. Now, keep this in mind though, I think a few years ago, Tinder was solely a hook up app - nowadays, I feel a lot of users are using Tinder to legitimately meet new people and potentially start a relationship. It's practically normal to hear people on Tinder.

Prior to Tinder, I reactivated my account on OkCupid and that lasted less than a week. I don't know what I was thinking because the dating pool was awful and only guys that I would never in a million years date would message me.

Behold:

 
I don't even know what crossed his mind when he thought he could possibly land a date with an intro like that... I mean, are you 16 years old or something?


Umm... first of all, you're well over the age of what my profile said to message me. Second of all, I am more than an 8/10. Third of all, what kind of pick me up is that? Fourth of all, you're really not my type. I remember cringing when I read his profile.

So, it's safe to say that OkCupid is officially dead to me. A lot of my co workers talked me into getting on Tinder and I shared with them my previous experience and they reassured me that many users are now using Tinder to meet people and no longer an exclusive hook up app. He told me he came across a lot of female profiles that explicitly stated no hook ups.

I thought my co workers were bullshitting until I realized even the some of the guys' profiles says no hooks up. It's so strange that within a last few years, Tinder went from a shady hook up app to an app that genuinely is about meeting new people for hook ups, dates, hang outs, etc.

The guys I've chatted with are amazing. I mean, some are dull, some are not my type, and some are shitty, but nonetheless, my experience with Tinder is going great so far.


A little too... eager for me... and the last message? Cringe.

Back story: I matched with Dave and thought he was a pretty attractive guy and convo was going great so we decided to exchange numbers and agreed to meet up.

I took it upon myself to Facebook stalk him (He has an Irish name which made it 100000x easier) and saw more pictures and realized... eh. I know I sound very shallow but let's be real - Tinder is based on a physical attraction match prior to personality.

Luckily, the day we agreed to meet up, he texted me saying he couldn't make it which made me SO. HAPPY. SO. DAMN. HAPPY. Because I was dreading meeting him for coffee for the entire day.

As you can tell... he was still keen on meeting up, up until last Friday.

A few weeks ago, I texted Kendel telling her I agreed to meet up with Jonathan. Jonathan happened to be the guy after Dave and I told Kendel all about my dreading the coffee date and how thrilled I was that Dave cancelled.

 
Isn't it wonderful to have such a great friend that doesn't want you to end up single with 14 dogs?

I was actually excited to meet with Jonathan. We went for coffee and grabbed a quick snack and chatted well over 2 hours. I'm hesitant that it most likely won't work out because I'm not Asian enough for him (he's got yellow fever, haha). His face completely fell when I told him I don't speak Chinese at all. He did invite me over to build a London bus with him with nano blocks sooo we'll see how that goes.

Just a few days ago, I agreed to meet with Justin. 
Oh boy, let me tell you about Justin...

(Is it me or is there a trend with J's? Will I be one of those cliche couples that has matching initials?!).

Justin is a software developer (hullllozzz) with wonderful bright blue eyes like the sky - and I'm a sucker for coloured eyes. We met at Steamworks and chatted over dinner.

My friend,  a Tinder expert, told me to avoid guys without a biography in their profiles because it usually means they're douches and want a hook up. I took the whim anyways and swiped right. In addition, Justin and I barely talked for a week when we agreed to meet up and if you went through out conversation, we never talked about ourselves, just random shit. 

I was about 1/10 hesitant in meeting him because I didn't know anything him. Nothing at all, not even his job.

Anyways, to my surprise, Justin and I clicked on very well

As in, as someone that LOVES history, photography, travels, sushi, castles, space, horror films, etc., etc., Justin loves them as well. Insane, eh? 

What are the chances? Justin is the first guy to ever share so many interests with me. It's so refreshing to geek over cameras and express my love and interests in Medieval torturing techniques and not be seen as a geek or creep.

The only thing we disagreed on was snow and snow activities. I hate snow and skiing/snowboarding.. he loves them. 

If I'm being honest, Justin is probably the only one I'm interested in seeing again.


I learned in today's age, you can't jump to conclusions so quickly and have high hopes in dating.

But, I'd keep you guys updated on Justin and Jonathan.
And whoever I end up matching with and having a great time.

Tinder is quite amusing.

Monday, August 1, 2016

Big AliExpress Haul!

If you don't know what AliExpress is, it's about the Asian equivalent of eBay but with cheaper goods and easier to find and navigate around.

I used to love eBay but if I'm being honest, I don't frequent that site much anymore unless I'm looking for specific items because I found it almost near impossible to find what I'm looking for and generally the prices are a bit more higher than AliExpress.

Anyways, over the past two months (this haul is long overdue), I went a little shopping spree on AliExpress and I'd show you what I got!

PS: I am frugal.
PPS: This post is not sponsored by AliExpress! All contents were purchased by me.

In no particular order:


An "Adidas" gym bag for $10 CAD! Since starting my new job that requires me to pack my laptop and lunch everyday, my backpack ran out of room for my gym gear so I purchased a small gym bag.



 


A no-name 8mm fisheye lens for my Olympus for about $80 CAD. It does the trick for those looking to have a fun lens without breaking the bank. If you're interested, all my New Zealand vlogs were shot with this lens and if you head over to my Flickr, you can see HD photo samples of this lens.



A $3 tank top. The detailing was nice. It's very lightweight and best suited for the gym.


A $1 blush. It's very pigmented and pink. If you know, you know I'm not very big on make up so I can't justify forking over more than $10 on make up. Yup, let's hear it... #cheapass





A pack of "Victoria's Secret" seamless underwear for $7. I was in need of seamless underwear because I hate having panties line show up when I wear my workout gears and leggings. At my local store, a pair of seamless underwear was already $6-10 so when I found these "Victoria's Secrets", I figured I'd try them out.

It's so comfy and yes, super seamless :P


Stay tune for a What's in my Bags vlog featuring this bag! I got this for $29! It's officially my everyday bag.


$4 for a pack of coloured eyeliners. I love putting colour on my eyes but I don't believe in paying for $4 for one pencil - as you know, that adds up when you want the rainbow. These eyeliners goes on smoothly and lasts for the day!


$5 Hello Kitty shirt :)


$3 phone case. The sequins move around when you shake it :P


$1 liquid eyeliner. And oh my god, it was easily my most favourite eyeliner I've ever used! I'm definitely stocking up on these. They're even better than ELF (and cheaper!).



Ignore the trash back in the background - I was cleaning out my closet. I got these two dresses for $7 each! I wore the blue one for an interview and the floral one for my headshots.




Lastly, this is just a wristband for my camera - about $6. I hate the neck straps on my camera and never use it so I decided to switch it up and carry my camera via a wrist strap instead.

I absolutely love shopping on AliExpress over eBay. And, like eBay, they have a great consumers protection program as well :)

Let me know if you shop on AliExpress or was hesitant using this site!



*This post is not sponsored by AliExpress nor is it affiliated with. All items mentioned on this post was purchased with my own money. All opinions are mine.

Monday, June 6, 2016

EP. 5 | Sushi & Sims, and EP. 6 | Welcome to Devonport Vlogs (New Zealand Trip Recap pt. 2)

Oh, boy...

This recap is LONG overdue! I've been meaning to get through the rest of my NZ trip but life caught up with me. Anyways, enjoy this week's recap! :D


When we found our mutual love over sushi and the Sims, we both agreed that one day, we will just have sushi and play the Sims... well, Kendel and I can officially cross that off our friendship bucket list!

Massey University looks like it's something out of California!

The beautiful Massey library.

... and their odd golden statue of a chicken wing.

The next day we went to explore Devonport. For those who are wondering, Devonport reminds me of Stevenson, BC. Anyways, it's sooooooo beautiful. I absolutely love Devonport and if I had to pick a place to live in Auckland, it's most likely be Devonport.










Wow, can we just talk about the beauty of New Zealand's landscape? It's a mixture of hills, flatness, greens and blues. I'm so used to seeing the beautiful mountains back at home, it's refreshing to see a different landscape!

Monday, May 30, 2016

Everybody Needs a Pair of Black Glasses!

Confession: I own about... 5 pair of glasses. Yes, you read that right: 5 pairs. 

I'm a huge believer that glasses can dress up an outfit, and it doesn't hurt to have a few extra pairs laying around as a back up pair. As someone that tends to get bored easily, I love having different coloured glasses to swap around when I feel the need to change things up.

I also believe that as fun as it is to own multiple pairs of glasses in different colours, one cannot skip out on a basic pair of black glasses. They're fun, formal, casual, sexy, everything.

So... how does one own 5 pairs of glasses without breaking the bank?

I shop online and look for glasses frames that are affordable and cheap. When I mean affordable, I definitely mean affordable - I haven't paid more than $100 for a pair of glasses since I lost my first pair!

So, I snagged a pair of casual black frames from GlassesShop. They offer cheap glasses with a wide range of selections available.



Upon receiving the package, I was welcome with one of the cutest glasses case. It's so slim, I wish every case was made like this!

When I first tried it on, I felt the sunglasses almost crooked but I think it was just me because eventually the glasses felt comfortable on my face. It's very light weight!

I wear prescription glasses so it's important that the lenses I have on my glasses are correct and nice. GlasseShop got my prescription correct and basic lens for me. As you can see, the lens reflect off surfaces very easily which is something I'm not entirely a fan of but for the price what can you do? These lens are already anti-reflective but the notable reflections are still there.

One thing that took me by surprise was how flexible the hinges were! The arms swung open with a flick.


I'm not really a materialistic person and care for name brands but I wish GlassesShop would have printed the frame model's name rather than gibberish that don't make sense to consumers. I mean, it's not the greatest fault, but compared to other glasses shop, it's pleasant on the eyes to see a model rather than numbers.


Overall, my experience with GlassesShop was very pleasant. I got a nice black frame without breaking the bank! If you're in town for a new pair, give GlassesShop a try! GlassesShop also offers prescription sunglasses for those upcoming sunny months.

GlassesShop is offering all readers a 50% off on eyeglasses and sunglasses with free lens (excluding sale frames)! Enter GSHOT50 upon checking out.

*Disclaimer: This post was sponsored by GlassesShop, however, all opinions are 100% mine.