Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Age gaps in relationships


I shipped Serena+Nate BIG time during GG.
Being Asian and being surrounded by Asian friends, I've came to realize that in Asian cultures, age in relationships doesn't really matter.

I've read many stories of 10+ year gaps with some couples. That caught me off guard because most couples I know in real life have less than 10 years age gap. My parents, for example, have a 5/6 years age gap. My boyfriend and I have a 4 years age gap (although my birthday is in October and his is in January, people easily assume it's a 5 years gap but if you calculate by our birth year, it's only 4). A lot of my friends are in a 1-3 years gap and some are just a few months apart. 

The biggest age gap I know in real life is probably the 10 years gap between my classmate and her boyfriend (she's 21 and her boyfriend is 31) and the second biggest is an old friend and her boyfriend (she's 20 and her boyfriend is about 27/28). I got a bit turned off because I can't imagine why a nearly 30 years old man would want to be with a teenager but eventually I learned to accept it and it wasn't my place to judge.

I was with a guy for about a year and a half and he was six years my senior. To my embarrassment and regret, I also "hooked up" (it only lasted a few days) with a 30 years old, someone that was 11 years my senior. My cousin ended up finding out and he literally said "I'm not blaming you because you're young but that guy is f**ked up for going after a teenager!". The 30 years old guy told me he acknowledges our age difference and he really did like me and wanted a relationship but I felt extremely uncomfortable after knowing his age (he had Asian genes which made him look younger than his age). 

With my current boyfriend*, we went out with a few of his friends he hasn't seen in months. They were aware of me but we never met. One of his friends asked how old I was and I replied, "I'm 19 years old." and he nodded; however, his girlfriend started laughing and said, "Wow, (boyfriend's name*), I didn't know you decided to rock the crib." [In BC, the legal age is 19].

I don't think my boyfriend was offended by it but needless to say, I had a bad first impression on her AND I was a bit pissed off at her for making an unnecessary comment.

For me, an ideal boyfriend is someone that also has to be older than me. I don't care if it's older by one month, but I still prefer someone older than me (but not too old, haha). I feel secure and safe when I'm with someone older. I just get really... odd and uncomfortable if I dated someone younger. And yes, back in high school, I turned a guy down because his birthday was two months after mines.

But, love is love, right? I'm not in a position to judge a couple with a 15 years age gap. As long as they're happy, they're happy. I'm not going to lie, I will feel uncomfortable at first but by the time I get to know the person/couple, I usually accept the age difference. In the end, they've found someone to love and that's all that matters. Society has come a long way and age shouldn't be a shock to anyone now.

What are you thoughts in age gaps? Should we find someone closer or our age or let love take over and ignore age differences?

Look at these beautiful people.. ughanhjeabgtrhuairtebw!

*PS: I know that I haven't shared my boyfriend's name for some time and that's because he doesn't know I blog and if I were to use his name, I feel like... I don't know, I feel like I'm betraying him in some way. I know there are about a million people with the same name and the only way people will know who exactly he is, is if they know me and tie the connection. But nonetheless, until I feel comfortable to let him know I blog, I might just continue with Boyfriend, or S. or I don't know, make something up?? Any suggestions for this situation?

Monday, November 25, 2013

The 2014 Blogger Challenge

AnotherGirlyBlg

I found a great new blog challenge for the new year and the best part? It's achievable!  

The 2014 Blogger Challenge is hosted by Gaby from AnotherGirlyBlog. According to Gaby, this challenge is:

The New Year is a time for resolutions and starting fresh, so why not start with a challenge to kick off the new year! I have come up with the #2014bloggerchallenge. The challenge is to write a blogpost twice a month about different topics. The #2014bloggerchallenge posts will go live during the 1st and the 3rd weeks of each month. Everyone who signs up will be sent an email with the post topics. The topic ideas are there to give you new ideas and encourage you to write about things you wouldn't normally write about.

I'm excited for this challenge because it's only twice a month! I always fail the other blogging challenges because I can't blog everyday.

To join, visit Gaby's site and send her an e-mail or comment on her post! Deadline is Dec. 9th.

Friday, November 22, 2013

Beauty talk - eyebrows grooming!

Yes... I am actually using a Sims model.
Let me tell you a little story about my eyebrows.

Growing up, I never thought of eyebrows as a beauty feature on the face. I don't think I even gave a poop about eyebrows - to me, they were just there. Somewhere in 5th grade, I fell in love with Kelly Clarkson's and Lindsay Lohan's eyebrows. They were perfectly thin (but not too thin) and dark. I inherited my dad's eyebrows - thick and bushy; by the time I was in 6th grade, it was clear that I had a slight unibrow (or at least to my knowledge. I do remember in 3rd grade an older girl said I had "one eyebrow" and I didn't understand what she meant).

I remember in 6th grade (or 5th grade, I forgot), I overplucked them. Picture short, thick and unshaped eyebrows. Literally, they didn't meet with the end corners of my eyes. They were extremely short. Embarrassed by them, I swore I wouldn't touch them in ages.

By the time 7th grade rolled around and graduation came, my mum plucked the middle of my eyebrows and I was unibrow free! They were still bushy but they weren't short. 

It was in the early years of high school when I first started grooming my eyebrows. To this day, my method hasn't changed - I get them threaded once every few months or so and in between my threading sessions, I'll maintain them by plucking.

Nowadays, I'm extremely conscious about my eyebrows. They have to be groomed or I'll feel like everyone is staring at me for having big bushy eyebrows.

If you're like me, there are many ways to groom your eyebrows:

Threading: My favourite and only method to groom and shape my eyebrows. Threading is a traditional Indian-styled way to removing hair. They just use cotton threads and their body to guide the threads to areas that needs removal. It removes the hairs right out of the hair follicle which results can last up to 2 1/2 to 3 months (depending on how fast your hair grows). It's more precise than waxing, and possible even less painful than waxing. It's not messy and can be done in 5 minutes. Locally, I pay only $5 (I've heard in a few cities, it's about $7-$8) but threading is still cheaper than waxing.

Waxing: This is a very common method and a lot of first time groomers will resort to waxing. Eyebrow waxing prices ranges from places to place but from what I've seen, average price is probably about $15. Waxing isn't as precise as threading or plucking however the results can last your months. This method can tend to be messy too and even unsanitary if the salon isn't high quality. However, the biggest downside to waxing (aside from the pricey visits), is the high possibility of your skin sagging from all the stretching. Also, if your stylist isn't skilled in waxing, they can also be taking off bits of skin. My best friend's sister got her eyebrows waxed one time and the stylist ended up ripping off some of her skin.

Laser: I have yet to do laser hair removal or even consider it since it's the priciest of them all. However, I would be extremely uncomfortable to have such a powerful laser near my eyes. The results are permanent but it may require multiple visits and a few hundreds dollars (per visit).

Plucking: This is everyone's go-to method. I only pluck AFTER I get my eyebrows shaped. If little hairs start growing, I'll just pluck them away at home. I know very few people that groom their eyebrows by plucking because it takes massive skills (in my opinion) to carefully shape your eyebrows and not mess up. I highly recommend getting it done professionally and then maintaining them at home and following the shape your stylist has done.

DIY: Of course, there's also DIY. These kits are available in drugstores and beauty stores and it's pretty much like waxing but they also provide eyebrows shapes stencils/templates. Each brand has a different way of using their kit, but it's along the lines of placing the stencils onto your eyebrows, and using a white coloured pencil (some kits provide powder instead), trace the stencil. Then, after preparing the wax, place the strips outside of the stencil drawing and wax the excess hair off. I would recommend a second pair of hands to help if you consider doing DIY.

Tips:
  • To save money, instead of getting it done every month or so, maintain them at home.
  • Always ask the stylist to shape your eyebrows to a 'natural' shape. From there, you can decide if you want them thinner or let them grow a bit and get a thicker shape. 
  • If you're scared of the pain, take some painkillers before your appointment. 
  • Get inspired by celebrities' eyebrows. Even show your stylist a picture and he/she can determine if that shape suits you.
  • Pluck after a warm shower. It opens up your pores and reduces the discomfort of plucking hair from the roots.
  • DON'T SHAVE YOUR EYEBROWS! I had a friend back in high school that decided to shave her eyebrows she couldn't control how/where she wanted to remove the hair. She underestimated the razor's positioning and ended up shaving more than she wanted. Also, according to her experience, it left an odd, dry, and uncomfortable feeling after shaving and when the hair started growing back.
I'm blessed with dark (and thick) eyebrows according to my stylist - she told me a lot of her customers wants dark and thick eyebrows. I just see it as I don't have to fill in my eyebrows every morning like most girls I know :P

How do you take care of your eyebrows? Have any tips to share for first-timers out there?

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

I fell in love... with Target Canada! ♥

Last night, I got to shop at Target Lansdowne Mall before the general grand opening because my friend works there and invited a few of us to the friends/family event.

Dispite it was only a friends/family event, a lot of people showed up and the line up was huge! It moved fairly quickly though.

Everything was so neat and tidy, well organized and bright. It's hard to believe that at point, that used to be a crappy Zellers store. The energy was great and staff were super helpful. Even though it's out in Richmond, until the other Target stores open nearby, I think I'll find myself shopping there for a while. They have a great selection on gifts - seriously, if you're one of the last minute shoppers (like me), this place is like heaven. 

I didn't purchase much because I didn't need much. I did however, wanted to check out the make-up, clothes and accessories departments... but since I was shopping with a bunch of guys, I don't think they wanted to check that out, haha. When I passed by, the bags looks amazing and they had great sweaters too... ugh, I can't wait to stop by and do some clothes shopping!

They had the BEST Christmas department I've ever laid eyes on. Props to the team!

We have a Jewish friend and we just love bugging him about it (in a non-racist way).

I thought this was a nice little hat for the winter time and I ended up buying it because it was only $6... I didn't want to try it in store and when I got home, it ended up to be a big beanie... I'm not too sure how I feel about beanies. Oh, and lucky me, I removed the tags before I tried it on so I can't even return it! I might get my mom to fix it up into a smaller hat.

Long story short, the notebook I have since Sept 2012 got soaked with water. The pages still aren't dried yet but it's all a wreck for the bottom half. So I ended up buying a notebook... gah, they had such cute selections but I ended up with Hello Kitty... it even has glitter!

I LOVE Christmas if you don't know that already. I was looking to purchase a small Christmas tree with fiber optics in the end but Target didn't have any. However, they had this mini light up tree... I love it! The size is perfect enough for my tiny room but I still wanted a slightly bigger one... :/ next year maybe?
I love Target Canada... ^__^

Monday, November 11, 2013

Why is it that when I have a job, I tend to blow money too quickly?

So, I finally secured a job over at Staples as a Copy Center Associate... yay... ??? It's only a temporary job (about 9-10 months) until my co-op from school kicks in (co-op is when the school finds a company related to your studies and gets you a paid position with the company for a few months. Think of it as getting experience before graduation).

I love it to far - extremely slack environment and management and great hours to fit my schedule. Since I know nothing about papers and related goods and those big office printers, I had a lot to learn during my first week at Staples. I picked it up fairly quickly and I feel somewhat confident. This coming Saturday will be my first shift without a senior partner... super nervous!

Last week, and today, hasn't been the greatest. For personal reasons, the past week I've barely eaten anything or slept (which makes thing even crappier because my shifts starts at 7:30am/8am) and been crying nearly everyday. I felt like giving up on Friday but fought through this weekend and held onto hope. All I know is that I'm an emotional wreck right now and I really hope that this hope I'm holding onto and the pain I've been through will be worth it in the end. I wouldn't know what to do if things didn't turn out great, to be honest. 

Since my mental state was haywire, I literally went on a shopping spree almost everyday the past week. The amount of times I've been to Starbucks and reloading my card is ridiculous. I've been spending far more than I usually would when I go out to eat - whenever I do feel like eating, it's always sushi and I overspent on my sushi meals.

I also ended up shopping for clothes and make-up... which I felt like I really shouldn't have done.

A cut out dress from H&M. I ended up getting the purple one because I felt it looked better and I have waaaay too many black dresses.
I got a new eyeshadow palette too... look at all those neutral colours! I love the glitter in it and best part is, it isn't too much when I apply it!
I guess... I can get back on my savings path once everything is fixed and better... :/

Hopefully.

Saturday, November 2, 2013

32 books in less than year! [Goodreads Challenge]

32 books in less than a year!
I love reading and to be honest, I've only started reading A LOT last year because I got myself an e-reader. Otherwise, I hate dragging myself to the library and have a 2 weeks reading time to finish my books.

Goodreads has a yearly challenge of how many books you want to read in the year. It's my first time doing this challenge and a friend suggested 32 books. How he got that number, I have no idea but now that I've finished the challenge, I felt 32 books isn't enough. It still records how many books you've read once you past your goal so by the end of the year, I'll have a better idea what my next year goal will be... I'm thinking 50!

My main focus for next years book is to tackle my to-read list. I have a bad habit of adding books onto that list and then when I start a new book, I open one that isn't on the list... haha, anyone else does that too?

Any of you have a Goodreads account? Let me know your reading habits and Goodreads profile so I can follow you!

Friday, November 1, 2013

Friday's Five Reasons I Love November

1) Remembrance Day
This will always be on the top of my list. I have so much respect for veterans and soldiers because they're risking themselves for us. I get extremely offended when people degrade soldiers as 'stupid people for not having a post-secondary plan' or something along the lines of that. There's one quote that hits me hard and to this day I still remember it and that's "If you can't stand behind our troops, feel free to stand in front of them".

2) Early Christmas Spirts
I am a Christmas person. As soon as December hits, I'm in the best mood ever! Literally, a smile plastered on my face. A lot of people get me to do stuff for them around this time because they know how friendly I get during Christmas... tsk tsk. I got so bored, I already made my Christmas shopping list which I'm dead set on - unless something dramatically changes. I'm thinking of getting a head start this year.

3) MORE cozy night-ins
 I'm lazy and November equals colder days. Hellooooo, green tea and a nice book!
(oh, and hello to you too, boyfriend :P)

4. 2014 Planning
December is so hectic in terms of the holidays, I tend to plan my next year in November. I do get excited because I love challenging myself and making new changes to my life and self.

5. Family gatherings
For some reason, my family loves to gather around in November and rarely in December... I have no idea why but as my family is so distant from each other, it's nice.