Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Weight Shaming

Have you seen/heard something like this?

 


Few things in life make me extremely angry and insulted, and one of them is women posting crap like this on Facebook, Tumblr, or whatever.

As a skinny girl all my life, I've heard everything thrown to me such as:
  • I wish I was a thin as you...
  • You're so boney!
  • You should order a Big Mac and put some meat on your bones.
  • I want your body!
  • Do you even eat?
While I do receive "compliments" on how skinny I am, trust me, most of them is someone criticizing my (perfectly fine) eating habits, and I hate it. What gives you the right to question my eating habits and throw insults about how I'm "skin and bones"?

Weight shaming is a double standard. Women, especially those on the heavier side, feels that they have every right to insult skinnier women with comments like, "Geez, do you ever eat? Order a cheeseburger!" and sharing insulting pictures that only dogs wants us. But, as soon as we turn the tables around, the skinnier women will receive backlash for being a bully. Seriously, what's the difference between a heavier women calling someone skins and bones, and a skinnier women calling someone fat? Nothing.


What these bullies needs to understand that just because I'm skinny, doesn't mean that I'm not beautiful or unwanted. It doesn't mean that I'm about to disappear through the cracks.

It means that I have a fast metabolism. It means eating healthy and exercising. It means maintaining a healthy lifestyle. It means that I still have insecurities. Naturally, I just have a fast metabolism, and you know what? It bugs me. It really does. I feel like no matter how much I eat, I can't gain weight. It's a personal goal of mines to donate blood, but I don't reach the requirement of 110lbs to donate. It's hard for me to even reach 100 lbs.

If losing weight is hard for you, just realize that there are some people that struggle to gain weight. As silly as that sounds, there are millions of people, myself included, that struggles to gain weight (without an eating disorder), and that's due to our lifestyles, fast metabolism and/or food preferences.



 

Those three images are probably taken at my heaviest weight. Why? Because I was on vacation for a month overseas and like all vacationers, we gain weight away from home. I gain a lot of weight when I'm on vacation because I have relatives that spoils me by taking me out for breakfast, lunch, and dinner because they haven't seen me in ages. As the only Canadian in my extended family on my Dad's side, you can probably tell how excited everyone in China will get when they hear that I'm stopping by. Everytime I head to China, believe it or not, but I don't eat at home. My lifestyle in China consists of visiting restaurants on a daily basis about 2-3 times a day (and if you're Asian, let's not forget the late midnight street food vendors).

But if that's roughly at my heaviest weight, and at the sight of those arms and legs, imagine how skinny I am on a regular basis. To have insults thrown indirectly at me, and people nagging me to eat cheeseburgers (newsflash, I live at McDonald's... as disgusting as that sounds).

Women of every size, we need to stop this weight shaming and targets on skinnier women. We are beautiful, no matter what size we are. We are happy, we are comfortable, and we are healthy. You hear people say never judge a book by its cover, so why are we judging each other by our sizes? Men (and women) will love you no matter what. There are men that will choose heavier women, and men that will choose skinnier women. That's just preferences, no different than being attracted to brown eyes than to blue eyes.

8 comments:

  1. I 100% agree with you and I was actually going to (and probably still will) blog about this myself! I've been skinny my whole life too and I've heard it all, just like you have. It's disgusting. It really is. The one that bothers me the most is, "I was skinny like you. Then I got pregnant. Once you get pregnant, you'll get fat too." Um, what?

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  2. I totally agree. It's just as bad to shame people for being skinny. Weight is just an issue that should be off limits.

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  3. I love this post. Like you, I am not allowed to give blood and really want to, and I also live at McDonald's (I work there, so that doesn't help!). I think people think that if you're slim you have it easy, but honestly I'd love to be able to put on a little weight. When I was about 14 I had a 'friend' who used to tell me I was anorexic and it really messed with my perceptions of myself, but I was told to take it as a compliment rather than be offended by it. If that's not backwards I'm not sure what is, but I agree that if you're healthy then it shouldn't matter xx

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  4. As a curvy woman - this post is just refreshing. One of my best friends is stick thin - and it's not by her choice! She just can't gain weight. I feel like no one has the right to judge other people's bodies - that being said it's unrealistic of me to not expect people to do so. SO I just ignore it and your post is just awesome and I love it! Well said girl!

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  5. I have the same problem! It's not like I'm skinny because I workout or eat right. I just have a fast metabolism. I'm half Asian, and most Asians are skinny. We can't help it. I always feel uncomfortable when people have conversations about weight around me. It's like they make me feel bad for being skinny. And when people tell me to eat...I eat all the freaking time! It's just ridiculous. I would rather people just not talk about it around me or compare themselves to me. I'm not doing anything special to stay this weight.

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  6. I admit it, I'm overweight but it's due to a lot of medication that I take for my bipolar disorder/ptsd. I actually was losing weight until I got on my medication. Sigh. Regardless, you're right. I recently got a comment saying that I was fat and it hurt so bad. I wanted to cry so bad but why do people tear other people down for being a certain way? Why can't we be accepting of each other regardless of weight? There is more to a person than weight. I'm sorry you, too had to face discrimination against your weight. It seems like women are targeted especially unlike men. Why the double standard? Yeah, it's so many questions that I want answers to. Please, know that you're beautiful the way you are. We are all beautiful no matter what. No matter what they say. <3

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  7. This is such a great post! I find that it's more women judging women than men judging women, at least verbally (maybe men just do it with their thoughts), but regardless it needs to stop! We need to concentrate on being healthy, not on what size we are!

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  8. You said "midnight street food vendors" and I immediately went "UGH I WANT." haha totally got off track from reading the post. I completely agree with what you're saying! I'm of average weight but I have friends who fall on both sides of the spectrum. Some of them have admitted that they try really hard to gain weight and hate their skinny body. It's actually so much more difficult for someone with a naturally thin body to gain weight then a lot of people think! And on the other hand, I know guys who are just as critical as girls about a girl being "too fat" and it makes me mad when they bash girls for their weight and other guys for being "chubby chasers."

    People just make me mad in general. Great topic!

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