Sunday, April 13, 2014

MUST READ: Elizabeth's "Your femininity is not defined by body hair"

If you haven't checked out Bloglovin's popular page, I suggest you do to find new blogs and fantastic new entries. One in particular came across my attention and after reading it, I just HAD to share it with you guys.

Elizabeth from Delightfully Tacky recently posted an entry titled "Your femininity is not defined by body hair".

And, if the title isn't a dead giveaway, Elizabeth voices her opinions on why we shouldn't let our body hair dictate if we're sexy or womanly enough in today's culture.

Seriously, it's a really good read that shouldn't take you more than 10 minutes.

I shave/epilate my legs, armpit, and upper lip facial hair. From my personal experiences, I've my shares of being hairless "down there".  And, honestly, if you asked me, I did it because a guy told me so - stupid right?

The first time I went completely hairless was back in senior year. When I finally saw the results of being hairless, I didn't feel any better. Shaving my legs gave me wonders when I pulled on shorts or leggings, but being hairless didn't change the way my underwear felt (is that just me?).

Instead, I felt slightly... uncomfortable. I didn't feel like I was myself. I wish I can describe how I felt, but there's no way of putting it to words. It just didn't feel as good as I thought it'd be. However, obviously, the guy liked it.

There was one guy that made me felt the worst about it, but, he sort of helped me find my grounds in maintaining my body hair. Long story short, he made me feel dirty and disgusting because of my pubic hair. Trust me, that's a shit feeling and for those whose been through it, you know what I'm talking about. I eventually went hairless again just for his sexual desires.

Eventually, somehow, I didn't go hairless anymore. I grew it out and learned to maintain it - as in, trim and get as close to the skin as possible. That's my preference - groomed and trimmed. I didn't want to look like a pornstar or felt like a little girl (I say that with all due respect to those that wax everything off).

For me, it makes me feel comfortable. To be honest, having hair down there makes me feel like a woman so when I choose to groom my lady part instead of being completely hairless, gave me a good feeling waxing never did.

If you read Elizabeth's blog, you'll understand that she has said everything and I got nothing left to say.

The only thing I can share from my experiences - wax it off for yourself, not for a man. Don't make the same mistake that I did. I'm sorry but if a man can't accept the fact that a woman has hair, he's either A) too immature to realize that not everyone has/wants the body of a pornstar, B) he doesn't appreciate a woman and her body, and/or C) he doesn't love you enough to look past natural biology.

I'm sorry, but that's the way I see it. Sure, a guy can prefer to be with a hairless woman, but if he tells you it's a turn off, it's not sexy, it's disgusting, etc. he's not a keeper, and not respectful towards your decisions. It's like having a preference towards men with blue eyes but you ended up meeting someone with brown eyes. You're attracted to the boy with brown eyes and eventually, love him enough to realize that you don't care if he doesn't have blue eyes.


*No intended insults for those who are hairless.

4 comments:

  1. I agree with you completely, I thought about shaving it down there before but honestly I've just decided that au natural is the best way about it, at least for me. Neat and trimmed, not hairless haha Great post Jess!

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  2. I totally agree. I hate that boys think they can dictate how we groom ourselves in general.

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  3. How much hair I have down there usually depends on my mood. lol. Sometimes I feel like being bare, and sometimes I like a little bit of hair. I know what you mean about it feeling uncomfortable though! My bf now said he doesn't mind hair, so long as it's neat. In fact, he said he thinks its weird when girls go completely bare! haha. He also used the term "little girl" lol! I mean, I think that thought process makes so much more sense.

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  4. I def think there are pros and cons to both sides. I can honestly say I've never waxed though. Ouch!

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