Thursday, September 3, 2015

Why I Ignore You on Online Dating



Guys, I ventured off into the world of online dating after reading about modern romance. And, to be honest, I don't even know why...

I'm in a position where I don't know what I want. I'm still talking to Sukh and Rob. My feelings are jumbled up and nowhere to be found for the most part. I distance myself from potential dates. Everything. I just don't know what I want, if I'm being honest.

But, nonetheless, I hopped on to OKCupid to see what the dating pool is like.

And, at first, a lot of attractive guys were on there but their profiles were empty or their photos were too "professional" which leads me to think that OKCupid may have thrown in some filler accounts to attract female daters.

It's been nearly two days since I opened my account, filled the details and uploaded my photos. And, my inbox has been filled with messages from guys that turn me off instantly.

I'd ignore your message if...

  • You are under 22. My profile says message me if you're at least 22 years old. I sometimes talk to 21 years old in case they got a late birthday, but for the most part, automatically deleting your messages if you're under 22.
  • You're over 27-28. Similar to above, if you're older than what I'm looking for, I don't open your message.
  • You don't type properly. I'm not asking for academic paragraphs, but if you send me "wbu?" or "how was ur day" and "ur cute", I think you need a dictionary, not a date.
  • You ask dumb questions. If my profile says I'm still in school wrapping up my last few semesters... it means I'm still in school. Did you not read my profile?
  • You can't hold a conversation. If you constantly ask how my day is going and nothing else, bye bye.
  • If your profile is empty and/or has no profile picture.
  • If your profile picture is just... bleh.
  • If you're not my "type". This may sound shallow, but don't deny you don't do this. I delete messages from people who I don't find attractive and never will. I don't have time to waste.
  • Your profile is rude or plainly not what I look for in a guy. I'm not interested in cosplay, anime, or things like that. If you enjoy those hobbies, that's great but I can't do that.
  • If your messages are too sexual.
I'm a picky dater, I'd be honest. But being picky is good. I'd rather hold out for someone I know I can have a future with rather than wasting my time meeting up with people I know would go nowhere.



Key takeaway?

Take good photos, use proper grammar and words, aaaaaaaaaand, read their profile!

4 comments:

  1. DUDE. I'm exactly the same! I was actually going to write a post very, very similar to this! Haha. You read my mind. My #1 deal breaker is if they can't spell properly haha. Little mistakes are fine, but "wbu" "ur" etc (like you said) is a no-no.

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  2. Yes! Ugh, I feel like I'm back in high school using slang and everything. We're grown up people, spell like one!

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  3. Thomas C. MayerMarch 24, 2016 4:20 AM

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