Wednesday, February 10, 2016

10 Signs to Stop Chasing Someone

Last weekend, my friend and I had a talk about relationship problems. It was refreshing to hear a guy's perspective because it's often times that women are in this predicament.

I'm sure you're all familiar with this scenario. Where two individuals see each other but it's not been defined and he/she is starting to give the other person mixed signals. One person seems to be giving more than the other. One person is starting to get confused and stressed out.

I've been on both spectrum of this scenario. I've been a victim and I've been the one that was "playing" the guy as well. Both is not a fun place to be, especially if you're the one relentlessly chasing the other person.

From my experiences (and from my friend's experiences), here are a few signs it's time to walk away:

1. Their texts/calls is sporadic
Granted, we all work or go to school and have lives of our owns but if you start to notice that your "partner"'s texts is now disappearing and you're lucky to get even one text throughout the day, there's an issue. Nobody is that busy to not be able to return a text. Yeah, it may take a few hours but at the end of the day, their texts come through and there's a decent conversation going on throughout the day. If you know that individual usually has their phone on them and you sort of know what their schedule is like and you don't hear from them for the entire day... well...

2. It's always at midnight
... and when they do text you back, it's near midnight when all you want to do is go to sleep. And when you do respond to their text, they disappear for another hour or so and get back to you when you're already asleep.

3. Cancelled plans
They seem enthusiastic at first but when the time comes, you receive a text saying "something came up" and they ask to reschedule, only the rescheduling never happens.


4. Or really late plans
Or, they sometimes want to hang out at 10pm, 11pm or 12am. You know what we call that? A booty call.

5. You're always the one initiating the conversation/events
If you look back at your texts and you notice that you're the one always coming up with something to do or starting the conversation, that is a sign that you're not on their mind as often anymore.

6. You know more of their excuses than you know of their week
I told my friend, if they really care about you, they'll find the time in their schedule to see you. No one is ever THAT busy. Especially if they have time to go out with their friends on a Friday night.


7. There's an elephant in the room
After a while, when you two do meet up, you feel there's an elephant in the room but none of you guys want to address it and just live in the moment because after not seeing them for so long, you tell yourself, everything is ok. It's not. When you're with someone, it should feel nice, loving, comfortable, etc. There shouldn't be any lingering doubts in the room or in the back of your mind.

8. Internally, you know what to do
You feel something about the "relationship" is off. You feel you know what you should do. Your tolerance is up with all their excuses and behaviours, but you don't want to admit to reality. Your heart is telling you the truth but your mind is trying so hard to fight it off. Both your mind and heart should be on the same page.

9. You've started doubting already
My manager once told me, if you're looking for a job already, you want to leave. My friend once told me, if you doubt [that t-shirt], you don't want it enough.

So, I believe, if you've had doubts for a long period of time already, you know what you have to do. Yes, it's natural to doubt your relationship and your partner once in a blue moon, but not to have it linger around you and affect your daily life.

10. You want more
You want more than what your partner gives you because you're not getting the love you deserve. 


I've been on this end before and it sucks. But if you face reality, end it, and move on, it's sooooo much better. You feel free. You feel refreshed. You feel motivated. You feel like nothing to holding you back. Yes, it's going to hurt for a while, but it does get easier! And yes, it's easier said that done, but trust me... you'll feel so much happier.

Relationships are always troubling, but even if you found the "perfect" person, what good does it do if you guys aren't moving forward? If you always have these lingering feelings in the back of your mind? I'd rather spend time with myself and meet someone that can progress with me in the long run than cause me this heartache and confusion.


I told my friend, if Obama has time for Michelle, she can have time for you. The biggest sign for me to stop chasing someone is their sporadic texts. I know because I use to ignore texts or take hours (and days) to get back to someone I'm not particularly fond of.

In the end, if you know that this "relationship" isn't going anywhere... get back to reality sooner than later. Focus the energy on someone that can progress your career, life and/or ambitions. You shouldn't waste your energy and time on someone that doesn't want your love. There's someone out there that can give you the world without the confusion.

Sunday, February 7, 2016

Ep 2. An Empty Gym | Vlog

I'm starting to enjoy vlogging much more! I'm watching more vlogs and picking up tips on the internet. I'm not aiming to be a vlogger, it's just very fun and casual to do. Plus, I feel it's much more personal than writing!

This is a very late update. I filmed this on Feb. 2nd :)


Honestly, for those who want to try vlogging but have always shy away from it... film your day privately! I'm working up the confidence to vlog solo in public and I'm sure I can do it very soon. But yeah, vlogging is getting extremely fun! I'm thinking of investing into a better video editing program - the one I'm currently using is Windows Movie Maker. I've been eyeing Filmora which sits around $50-65.

Let me know if you guys are interested in vlogging and if you do vlog, send me your links!

Friday, February 5, 2016

Hydrating Your Skin (Throughout the Winter) | Winter Skincare Routine

One of the biggest things I hate about winter is the cold harsh environment. Canada is known to be brutally cold but luckily I'm located on the West Coast which proves to have warmer winters (what is snow that you talk about?). However, despite having a warmer winter than the rest of Canada, Vancouver sometimes still gives me dry skin from time to time.

 

Lately, I've incorporated the L'Oreal Hydra-Total 5 Ultra Fresh Ritual into my everyday life. Previously, my skincare routine was great but I must admit, it did leave me skin slightly drier in the winter time (because I often forget to moisturize).


I use the gel cleanser every night to get rid of dirt and my make up. This little thing takes off my waterproof mascara and eyeliner in one quick wash! I prefer to use it at night because I feel my face is much cleaner after a long day rather than using a cleanser in the morning.

Following the cleanser, I use the toner to tighten my pores up. I have an oily T-Zone and this is wonderful. The current toner I use has a very strong scent and burns my skin (if I have any cuts). It's extremely power and makes me eyes water when I use the toner. The L'Oreal toner smells light and to my delight, doesn't sting at all!

Lastly, I use a bit of moisturizer before going to bed and in the morning. It's very light weight moisturize and smells great. Unfortunately, I don't find the moisturizing to last all day - my other daily moisturize works much better.

Overall, the L'Oreal Hydra-Total 5 Ultra Fresh is a great way to keep skin hydrated and moisturized in the winter. Compared to my other cleanser and toner, L'Oreal works wonder. However, I might skin out on the moisturize and stick to my current one instead.


*All products reviewed in this post was provided from Influenster. Opinions stated on this review are 100% from my own observation and usage.